I have been on Facebook for more than four years. It is officially my longest relationship. It has been a routine to check it when I wake up and before I go to bed, along with many times in between. While it’s a great tool for keeping in touch with friends you would otherwise have no idea where they are or what they are doing, it also keeps you in touch with exes that you would otherwise have no idea where they are or what they are doing.
I’d like to think of myself as a girl who is comfortable keeping in touch with an ex, but being honest, it really hurts to see that someone is happy with someone else I’m pretty sure he started seeing before we called it off.
So, rather than just de-friending this person, I am trying a different approach. I deactivated my Facebook account. This may seem dramatic, but I realize that I spend too much time on my computer and I’m maintaining superficial relationships based on what my friends choose to tell the world, and not in conversation with me. I just reread the last sentence and it seems to contradict the whole idea of blogging. However, what I love most about blogging is that it’s an opportunity to have community with strangers, who we have more in common with than we really know.
It’s only been a few hours that I’ve been Facebook-free, and I’ll admit, during the Twins game tonight, it was hard to not post what I was feeling while I was watching it–I’ve gotten so used to public-emoting, but it’s good to think of who I really should be talking to if I want to share a thought with someone. I’m not saying that I’m never going back on Facebook–I’m sure that I will, but I’m willing to try even a week without it. I’ll make it my goal to go a month.
I have a good friend who did the same thing and he is quite happy with his decision. I don’t think he was on Facebook nearly as much as I was, but it’s still good to have some company in my quitting cold-turkey. I’ll post my progress on quitting Facebook tomorrow and later this week.
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